Consequences should be designed to teach a positive lesson, not to punish. Parents need to think carefully about their tone of voice and demeanor, and remember to be respectful as they are role models. It's easy for a frustrated parent to lose their cool and say something fast without really thinking about it. These quick reactions make consequences feel like punishment instead of a teachable moment working toward teaching children to become more independent and responsible.
Parenting expert Marie Marchand shares practical tips to the 5 R's of consequences.
Consequences must be related to a specific negative behavior.
The consequence must be reasonable in terms of time.
Consequences need to be respectful to maintain a positive relationship.
The consequence should be discussed in advance to make sure the child understands what will happen if they make choices. This helps develop independence, decision-making and living with the consequences of your choices.
Follow through with your stated consequences.
Marie Marchand, founder of Parenting Dialogue, parent, City Kids pre-school principal and co-author of bestselling children's book Home from Home, has over 29 years of international experience teaching in Canada, Switzerland and Hong Kong. She is asked by parents, schools and different organisations to run private sessions, workshops and seven-week courses on all matters relating to successful parenting and teaching.
This article was independently written by Healthy Matters. It is informative only and not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. It should not be relied upon for specific medical advice.
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